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The Power of "Now!"
Written by Holly M. Hohlbein Saturday, 24 May 2008 02:02
Though I love Eckhart Tolle’s spiritual masterpiece, this post is not about that. It is about a split-second difference that makes all the difference. I want to talk about how to be powerful when you are powerless.
So much in a divorce is out of your control. You can’t stop it from happening. You can’t control the other person. You can’t make the pain go away. You can’t help but worry about your kids, the future, and your very survival. There is so much that you didn’t ask for and don’t want!
Some people get so stuck in the powerlessness that they sink into despair. Others “rage against the machine” and exhaust themselves fighting against the inexorable tide. Happily, there is a third alternative. You might be surprised to hear the answer: Go Fly a Kite.
Yes, a kite. Every child quickly learns that if you want your kite to fly, you must wait and watch patiently for just the right moment. If you try to throw the kite up when there is no wind, it will fall instantly back to earth. If you run with the kite you will soon tire unless there is wind to help take it skyward. What you must do is be aware and alert to what you cannot control, so that you can use it powerfully in service of what you want.
The power is in the awareness of the moment. While you are waiting and watching, you can be mending your kite, or adding length to its tail, or otherwise readying it for when the gust of wind does come. In that split-second of gust is the power of “NOW!”
When you feel the despair or exhaustion of powerlessness, that is your cue. At that moment, begin to know that you are truly powerful. Try accepting what you can’t control. See if new possibilities open up. Tend yourself. Watch for wind. BE POWERFUL.
